Mathew: Welcome
So today we’re going to talk about how woman can help the men in their life, whether it’s their husband or their boyfriend that are struggling to come into services that can help them become a better man, whether it’s reducing their pain, reducing their stress or any other aspects of making the relationship more whole, improving communication.
Mathew: Welcome back, everybody.
I’m Super excited because we just talked about the idea of loving your partner for the purpose of growth and self love and having your own personal practice and taking it on so that you’re not taking on the BS that your partner unbeknownst to him or her is likely passing to you.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to getting rid of your guilt.
Do You Have guilt?
Most people at some point in life tend to have some type of guilt.
I think everybody knows what it feels like to feel guilty,
and what we would like to do today is give you a solution
Mathew: Welcome back
Dr. Lisa and Marcola, round two, stage 2 of guilt, How to dismantle it now that we’ve identified it. Oh, my gosh.
We’ve been creating it without realizing it, and we’re probably all carrying it.
Where should we start?
Mathew: So welcome back to Round three, on guilt.
You said that freedom is your replacement for feeling guilty.
So this popped in my head.
I’ve been told for a long time coming that nothing is for free, and actually the things we receive for free aren’t necessarily value.
Mathew: So welcome back to Round three, on guilt.
You said that freedom is your replacement for feeling guilty.
So this popped in my head.
I’ve been told for a long time coming that nothing is for free, and actually the things we receive for free aren’t necessarily value.
How Women can help Men Grow
Part One
Matthew: Welcome. So today we’re going to talk about how women can
help the men in their life, whether it’s their husband or
their boyfriend that are struggling to come into services
that can help them become a better man, whether it’s
reducing their pain, reducing their stress or any other
aspects of making the relationship more whole,
improving communication.
And I have two amazing, very wise, talented women
with me today, Dr. Lisa and Marcia, a retired social
worker. And I think a lot of the women that come in this
office to get body work, to get energy work, to get
resolution, want their husbands to come in.
Some come in, some don’t, and it’s a struggle.
And the couples out there that don’t already know this
need to understand.
Women tend to know. However, they would do well to
understand on a deep level, they’re likely taking on a lot
of the pain, stress and anxiety from the male, because if
you’re sleeping in the same bed, you’re sharing the same
space, you’re bonded through sexual engagement.
You are, in fact, in the same field consciously, physically,
emotionally, spiritually, etc.
And Unfortunately, and fortunately for humanity, women,
through their beautiful hearts that are developed and
cultivated, offer that energy out constantly and with their
male counterpart will, in effect, through that process,
deplete themselves, which then will further exacerbate
their already baseline issues of stress and anxiety that
they carry.
And since they’re constantly using most of their brain to
solve problems and anticipate and strategize for the
betterment of their family and friends, they’re already
tapped out, usually, good women.
And most all women are good women.
I would like to talk to support the women out there on
how to talk to they’re males.
Give examples of what you all have done that have
supported the male in your life to improve himself so that
they have an idea of how to handle things.
So welcome and thank you for being here.
Lisa, would you like to share?
Dr. Lisa: Sure.
I think one of the most important thing is to do you.
And so it’s a really take the time to take care of yourself
before taking care of everybody else, including your man.
And instead of trying to fix or change what’s going on
with your man, try to look internally at what’s going on
internally for you, because if you’re not whole and good,
your energy is depleted and you are tapped out.
So first and foremost, the more I have myself in a good
place, I do my ritual practices.
I’m strong, I’m healthy.
Then whatever comes away with my partner, I can stay
solid and I can work from a place of listening and love
instead of a place of reaction and hurt.
Matthew: And as my partner, I will say thank you so much.
Dr. Lisa: You’re Welcome.
Matthew: How about you, Marcia?
Marcia: Well, with me, it’s that way to I have to initially
work on getting to that point because I had to accept my
husband just not willing to do anything for himself.
And then I could look at me and just stay on my process
of healing myself and keep up and consistent with that.
And I think he sees that.
And and I really want to say what I said earlier, but, you
know, if he gets upset with me because I’m keeping
appointments to take care of myself, if he wants to do
something else, I can let him know that I have to do this
process to take care of me so that I can help him.
So and then finally, he took six years.
He’s now coming to get body-work done and take care
of himself just long overdue.
But I’m grateful that that’s happening.
Matthew: So thank you, Marcia.
Without using names, since we know some of these
folks, this was a very sad and disappointing event that
occurred with a family.
So the wife and the kids were coming, everyone was
improving.
The stress was going down, they were getting better.
And the husband, is a doctor and doctors are
the most under cared for people on the planet.
And I think that my wife, father, grandfather, great
grandfather, all being doctors, I could speak to this from
first hand experience. Doctors I believe in my heart enter
to help humanity.
And Unfortunately, without going down the rabbit hole of
what’s broken in the medical system, they’re exposed to
things that really aren’t in alignment with that.
And there’s a certain element of acceptance for things
that are wrong within that field.
And there’s different degrees and levels to that that are
part of the curriculum, if you will.
And so because they’re always focused on helping, they
forget to help themselves.
And in this particular incident, this gentleman chose to
prohibit his wife from continuing, and she accepted that.
And to her detriment and his and the children, and is very
unhealthy dynamic between those two.
And this happens a lot, I think.
So just because that was personal to this process, I got
to first hand see one of many examples that I have been
exposed too. And in any type of a field that a person
seeks help, if the partner is feeling threatened through
their own insecurities or because they feel that that
partner is going to grow away from them and potentially
leave them because they’re improving And the person
that’s threatened is not willing to do the work and or
doesn’t want to lose something. Really.
That loss is the old self that really needs to die.
Those old habits, those old beliefs, those old ways of
being, this old paradigm, the dynamics of their
personal family childhood that was given to them as
a framework that no longer applies all of these things.
Collectively, are a prison and a man will ultimately
hold himself in a masochistic prism and prison that
he can’t see through the reflection of everything going
on because there’s so much in his mind he’s holding
on to, he can’t see what’s in front of them.
So here this amazing woman that just wants to love,
who wants to provide, who wants to grow, is held back.
And really, there’s only two decisions for her.
And of course, when she has children, one of the
decisions she doesn’t want to do is leave.
But sometimes that’s the healthiest thing to do, if in
fact, it’s too challenging and it’s going to hurt the
whole in the long term, if the one person not willing
to shift their growth or change is basically going to
sink the whole ship. And we see this a lot.
And Unfortunately, it’s probably more male driven
than it is female driven although,
All females are not perfect.
However, the female has to be willing to work with the
male, and usually they will.
Lisa: I feel and I think in that instance, it goes back to
what I said earlier, speaking from a female
perspective. And not all females are like that.
We have a tendency sometimes, and humans do
just in general to blame and to want to put it on
somebody else. You know, my husband’s not willing
to grow, my husband’s not willing to see my husband.
And sometimes it takes a lot of work and it doesn’t
always work. But at least it’s something to shift that
energy inside of yourself and shift your perspective
and see.
Well, maybe he feels threatened.
What is it in our relationship and our energy that’s
making him feel threatened?
There’s something at the core, it’s something I must
be doing to to make him feel threatened.
And so really looking at his perspective in another
way without compromising your growth and yourself,
but just really sort of incorporating it to really make a
safe situation for you both. And so I think once again,
really looking internal in looking at your views and
what energy you’re putting out can be helpful in that
situation.
And like I said, it doesn’t always work.
However, if consistent and coming from a place of
love, I think we really do have the ability to change
ourselves.
And when we change ourselves and change our
energy towards towards certain situations or people,
the energy of the whole situation has a potential to
expand and grow and change.
Marcia: Yes, I see that in my relationship with my
husband,
I’ll just continue to focus on myself and I think he
felt it.
Matthew: So I want to close with on this topic.
One specific thing that in my observation, I feel
women being such givers and lovers and nurturers
of everyone.
You don’t have to love yourself to love another person.
And I think really, in that statement, the value of this
understanding of partnership and growth in order to
grow, you have to love yourself.
Otherwise you can love everyone around you and
stay in a frame that works for the degree it works.
And I want to encourage all the women out there to
really not consider anything other than your Super
valuable and absolutely necessary for all humanity
to thrive and therefore to love yourself in whatever
ways that make sense.
This is really great.
I had someone in yesterday.
We know her.
And she took the self discipline route where she’s
eating very healthy.
She’s meditating, she’s working out, she’s clean,
right? She’s taking her time to exacerbate the word
discipline because it’s really self love.
And she’s done it long enough now that something’s
missing.
And we have this discussion, and she’s engaging
with this relationship with the guy, and she’s not sure.
And she’s kind of vetting him out, really, really taking
her time, smart, you know, not sleeping with him, not
even really kissing him for the first couple of weeks.
Just be like, Who are you?
Right.
Like, I know who I am now.
I really want to know who you are.
And I really admire that, because not a lot of people
do this. And I really feel like that is the ultimate path, the
ultimate path to connection that’s long term and worth
having. And so the conclusion of our conversation
was I said, what are the three reasons you don’t want
to get into a relationship? And she didn’t have any.
What are the three reasons you do want to get into a
relationship?
And all of those reasons she gave pointed to that’s
going to be her balance.
She’s got no one to share.
She’s got no one to grow what she’s got, you know
what I mean? And these things are all necessary to
Bloom. So to grow in a relationship, both people have
to choose discipline in order to have self love and to
take on your own personal self-care and process and
figure out what of all the different things you could do
are going to give you the best return for your time and
your efforts.
And so to everyone out there, both male and female,
alike, please give yourself the gift of loving yourself in
whatever ways, However small or large, with or
without the support of other people, with or without
the permission of other people, in order that you can
become more of who you really are. And as you do
that, you’ll replace the things that don’t serve you as
well that you’ve been using as tools to survive and
navigate life.
Let yourself out of prison because the world is
waiting for you in the green field outside.
God bless you.
How Women can help Men Grow
Part Two
Matthew: Welcome back, everybody.
I’m Super excited because we just talked about the
idea of loving your partner for the purposes of growth
and self love and having your own personal practice
and taking it on so that you’re not taking on the BS
that your partner unbeknownst to him or her is likely
passing to you.
And through this conversation we had after that
recording, Dr. Lisa had a very powerful insight, and
it’s important. I think everybody understands this next
stage, the layer of understanding why it can work and
why it doesn’t work.
So instead of paraphrasing it, Dr. Lisa Please Share.
Dr. Lisa: So this took me many years.
I had practices or daily practices that I would do.
And so I felt like that was self loving, giving myself love.
And about a year ago I realized I could feel love from
Matthew and from my children.
But when I tried to bring in the energy and feeling love
for myself, it just wasn’t as strong and it wasn’t there.
And so what I realized was in these practices, I thought
I was giving myself love.
But I still had a lot of resentment when I would do for
others, like do for my family, Cook.
And in that resentment, I realized I wasn’t loving myself.
And now that I really have brought self love in, so
through my practices, but just also daily, my resentment
has started to melt away.
Now I don’t have that resentment and in doing for my
family, because I really feel filled up from myself.
It’s beautiful.
Matthew: Thank you.
So if I heard you correctly or I basically pose it as a
question so you can clarify, it is important to have a
routine to have self practices, to do self care, However,
to go through the motions without the essence of a
rooted connection to what it represents.
It’s kind of a false bottom.
Dr. Lisa: So that’s true.
So what I was doing is exactly that.
I was doing the motions without feeling the sense of
helping myself and the feeling of what this is doing
for me and the feeling of loving myself, they were just
sort of doing motions.
And knowing, like checking this off my list applies.
Oh, I need to do my daily practice, check.
I need to do this check, but not really feeling that I
was making a difference in that feeling of loving myself.
Matthew: So I want to excavate a little further because I
know your personal past, and I think that all people
likely… Correct me if I am wrong.
All people likely arrive at this place of checking the boxes
or functioning through their duties, and the essence of it
kind of gets filtered or disseminated out because it’s not
appreciated by those that are receiving it.
Right.
So before I met you, you had another life and our
beautiful children I inherited in our relationship have a
different father. And without going into that, I think a lot
of women, and very much men to, through their jobs, you
know, if they’re a traditional family, and the man works
and all that sort of thing, which we have everything these
days. However, I think that essence is if either person,
whatever relationship you’re in is not appreciated in doing
their duties, if you will, or their chosen duties or the agreed
upon divided duties really aren’t valued by the other partner.
It becomes mundane, and it becomes like, I’m going to go
do this again?
But like, I sort of don’t like the fact that I’m doing it,
or I don’t know why I’m doing it, because they just don’t
even realize the value it’s providing us.
And so it transfers into that false bottom in essence.
And so you’re kind of having the life sucked out of you
through your activities instead of your activities bringing
the life into you.
And so you, I don’t believe, arrive at that place randomly,
I think that that was something where You were towing the
boat, you were building the house, you were paying the
bills, you were taking care of the kids.
It was ridiculous.
Dr. Lisa: I agree.
And I think it goes even deeper to a value issue with myself.
So I chose a profession, medicine that doesn’t bring value
to doctors.
It’s all about what you can produce.
And so I think from a young age, I’ve been searching for
value of myself.
And so my path I chose I thought that being a physician
helping people would bring me value.
And so Externally it looked like it because everyone is like,
Oh, Wow, you’re a physician.
Oh, you’re a pediatrician.
You want physician of the year.
All those accolades.
But I still didn’t feel valued because I felt like I was
a machine just doing what the system told me to do.
And so then I chose my ex husband, the same thing.
So until I brought in value, which I’m grateful, I have a
wonderful man now. And until I could really bring in
feeling value for me, not from an external surface or
external source, then all of those other things, it doesn’t
matter whether somebody else values it or not, because
I feel valued in folding clothes and doing the dishes.
Like I feel that’s important for me and whether the kids
thank me.
You always thank me.
And so I’m really appreciative of that.
But I feel valued.
That makes any sense.
Matthew: It makes complete sense.
Yeah.
Marcia, you have anything to add?
Marcia: I think I kind of called it
Center, you know, like, I Cook if I Cook, which
have been doing recently, but I have plans to Cook
today. It’s like, get a chance.
We don’t go anywhere.
But anyway, you’re cooking for me.
Centers me.
You know, it makes me feel like to have a purpose.
Dr. Lisa: Yeah and So I Cook so much because
I have young kids and to feed. And so for me, I had to
reframe it. And it’s like, I don’t want to Cook anymore,
as this is a meditation. So now when I Cook like, I really
think about the vegetables I’m chopping, I really think
about the food.
I really try to infuse that into my meal so that I know I’m
providing good nutrition not just for myself, but for my
family. And that brings an enormous sense of
centeredness and value.
So I agree with you.
Like, the daily mundane task can be so much more
powerful just by bringing that Center to it.
Matthew: So to conclude, the purpose has to be a higher
purpose other than the action, and it has to be a
connected purpose to healing. And there we have the
higher purpose.
Healing.
Thank you for listening.
No More Guilt – Part one
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to getting rid of your guilt.
Do You Have guilt?
Most people at some point in life tend to have some type
of guilt.
I think everybody knows what it feels like to feel guilty,
and what we would like to do today is give you a solution
on how you, with your family, with your friends, at work,
wherever it applies, can create what you want without using
the guilt trip – without creating guilt.
If we don’t even know how we create guilt, how are we
going to get out of the state of feeling guilty, leaving
the obvious alone to where guilt comes from.
For those of us that have carried it from a young age, these
are the places we need to graduate from, those institutions
that implemented guilt through their teachings.
Whether it was right or wrong, whether it’s conscious or
unconscious, are irrelevant in this moment.
And so within the dynamics of guilt.
If I see my son doing something that perhaps is not purposeful
in, hopefully not, but possibly destructive or dangerous
to him or someone else, if I focus on what I don’t want him
to do, or any shaming or any blaming or anything of that
nature, what I have done is I’ve created a victim potentially,
and more so, I’ve instilled unbeknown to him, guilt.
Let me pause in my actions before I do, when I think again
of something similar, and then I’m a deer in headlights and
I’m not myself.
I’m not free, I’m not flowing, I’m not confident, my self
esteem is challenged, etc.
So what would be a better approach in order to support my
son’s growth without causing him to feel guilty?
It’s simple.
If I want a certain result, there’s no reason for me to talk
about anything other than that result.
If I point out the obvious of what they’ve done wrong, it’s
not bringing us to the result any faster.
If I want to give an explanation of why that may not be the
best way to do something, now, I’ve given that person reason.
That person has an ability to reason, to have reasoning behind
why that may not work.
So what have I done in that reason?
I’ve given them an option.
Now, everyone knows that if you do not have an option, you
tend to naturally and instinctively want to be a Porcupine
and stick your needles out.
You want to create space, because if this option isn’t good
for you or isn’t going to feel good to you, you’re going
to fight.
And so by giving reasoning to the person an explanation and
idea of why a possibility you have, in effect afforded them
freedom to save face by having another option to do it a
different way and not feeling guilty or shameful that they
did it potentially the wrong way, even though there is no
wrong, there’s only learning.
And so what I want to do is I want to say this is what we
can accomplish if we do it this way.
This is the goal.
This is the direction in which we can both be happy.
You know what I mean?
And so I think guilt, instead of focusing on the things that
don’t work or that hold us down in life, I think we can focus
on the things that are going to be solution oriented.
And the solution is to present the outcome.
It’s very similar to the manifestation of what we talked
about recently with going to the Beach.
It’s the same principle.
So if we can leave guilt behind by creating something more
worthwhile, everybody wins.
I want to read briefly one or 2 quotes from authors throughout
history who are famous and we should all probably have heard
of. And if you haven’t, then guess what you do now and what
they have to say about guilt.
So, Shakespeare, I think everyone understands that he was
a great writer.
And Here’s what he writes about guilt.
One of the things he says is “the mind of guilt is full of
Scorpions.” Now, look, you play with a Scorpion long enough,
it’s going to sting you, so guilt will do the same.
It’s, of course, not going to work long term.
And that’s poison.
So guilt is, in effect, poison is what is being communicated
here. Here’s another one from Shakespeare.
“Better it were that all the miseries which nature owns were
ours at once, than guilt.”
So basically we could take all the bad weather.
We could take all the things that could happen that would
be detrimental in nature and receive them at one fell swoop,
one fail blow, then to be guilty for our life.
Okay, Senica.
Going back to the stoic times here.
“Wickedness escape, as it may at the bar.
It never fails of doing Justice upon itself, for every guilty
person is his own hangman.”
Now we’ve all played hangman where you draw a little stick
figure and you’re guessing which letters to use to pick the
word the person’s wanting you to guess.
And slowly with guilt, you are playing hangman with yourself.
And then, of course, is no good.
So the word guilt, for all practical purposes, is a word
used to control.
It was a word created almost to qualify control.
And we don’t realize often that we’re doing it not only to
other people in our communication, we don’t even realize
that we’re doing it to ourselves.
And the problem there is that we get stuck.
Guilt is of the past, and it’s a past without a resolution.
And because that past has never been solved, we hold it like
a hot coal that is constantly punishing us.
The problem that’s a deeper issue with that is that that
coal becomes a habit.
And so the things that would never bother you or that you
would consider feeling guilty over.
You become guilty over because the baseline issues of those
coals that you’ve collected pattern you to feel that way
without even realizing it, without being conscious of it,
without being aware of it.
And so you constantly have this.
It would be a version of a chip on your shoulder, but of
caution that you would constantly react because you feel
guilty or that you think what person, something a person
is telling you is telling you to make you feel guilty when
in fact, you’re free, and they’re just speaking what they
see. And so, my friends, the world could change overnight
if we could allow ourselves to move into the space of communicating
what we want.
However, we still need to address the issue of how to dismantle
the guilt that we’ve accumulated unbeknown to us.
No More Guilt – Part Two
Matthew: Welcome back.
Dr. Lisa and Marcia, round two, stage 2 of
guilt. How to dismantle it now that we’ve
identified it. Oh, my gosh.
We’ve been creating it without realizing it,
and we’re probably all carrying it.
Where should we start?
Dr. Lee, what you got?
Dr. Lisa: Recognizing that you have it first,
is the first step and knowing what it is.
And then for me, it’s recognizing that nobody’s
perfect. We all make mistakes. Mistakes are okay.
It’s part of growing.
And there’s no reason for me to feel guilty about a
mistake I made because it’s part of my growth.
When you know better, you do better and you just
move on. And so there’s no reason to hang on to
that guilt. So that’s been a big part of sort of me
releasing guilt.
Marcia: Yeah. I think with me, I’ve dealt with a lot of
anger of it to myself, and I think that’s part of
patterns, I guess I learned. I guess it’s surfaces
again when I see it in other people.
Matthew: You know, there’s two things that we
can do when we see somebody who’s fallen, and
there’s reasons behind why we would choose
to do one or the other of these two things.
And that goes into another topic.
However, fundamentally, we can kick them or spit
on them or throw something at them.
Or we can simply encourage them as we pass, or
we can offer them a hand to pull them up.
Right.
The question is, which one are you doing to
yourself, leaving the person in the example of the
person on the street alone.
And so what are you doing to yourself?
And each of these incidents we talked about in
relationships, when you look at text messaging
between a couple, if there’s a greater percentage
of negative text messages 10 % or more over
time, that relationship degrades and fails.
And that’s not a high percentage. That’s actually a
small percentage. It’s just that powerful, because
to overcome negativity requires a lot of positivity.
Right.
So like, if you, God forbid, had some injury or
some accident and you were to Jack your leg up
and you are going to use conventional medicine,
and what’s just the baseline commercialized
knowledge you may be spending your life in
pain of some kind associated with that.
That’s not understood.
So maybe 10, 20 years later, and, you know, maybe
close to 100,000 dollars later, you might be relatively
pain free, but still have some issues that as it applies
to the mental game of self destruction through
beating yourself up and feeling guilty and, God
forbid, angry because anger is, of course, a killer
for the liver. Those things take a lot to overcome.
And in a moment of awareness that you’re doing
it, you can change it overnight.
You can literally shift overnight.
And then what you’ll get that immediate relief, I
think the long term or the next moment or day or
week and month and year and so forth is more
about how do I now re-pattern giving
a hand, am pulling myself up, giving a hand,
pulling myself up.
Dr. Lisa: So for me, I agree with you, Matthew.
You need we have all this negativity.
Guilt is a negative emotion.
You can’t just get rid of it.
You need to replace it with something, too.
So then for me, it’s been what the opposite of guilt?
So what do I want to replace guilt with?
It for me and for everybody, it’s going to be different.
For me, it’s freedom.
So guilt feels imprisoned for me and binding and
feels heavy. And what I want instead is freedom,
like freedom from my past. Just freedom, in a
sense, to do what what my heart desires.
That’s good.
And so in guilt for me.
Not that anything is good or bad, but that’s how
I had framed it. So for me, it’s bringing in those
good emotions. Freedom.
Peace could even go with that along with that.
And then so when I feel that guilt, I can try to release
it and let it go.
But then I have another feeling that I can replace
it with. And so that is helpful for me.
Matthew: I think that’s a great analogy.
Marcia: That’s what I do is I get to a place of peace with
myself. I guess I have to shift to, you know, look at it and
take a perspective.
Dr. Lisa: Marcia, I think that’s spot on there’s always
there’s so many perspectives or stories.
And so if we can shift out of the story of being a victim
and feeling guilty, if we can shift because guilt really
produces victim hood, if we can shift out of that story
and see a different perspective, it shifts the emotion.
It really shifts the emotion, the energy.
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No More Guilt
Part Three
Matthew: So welcome back to Round three, on guilt. You said that freedom is your replacement for feeling guilty. So this popped in my head. I’ve been told for a long time coming that nothing is for free, and actually the things we receive for free aren’t
necessarily value. I’m not saying that they can’t be valued. However, there’s an intricate nature in the process of earning or experiencing or building towards something that you possess, whether it’s an internalization of a tool or skill or a mindset or a habit or a physical thing, all collectively, the same principle falls into nothing’s for free.And so the freedom that is true and exist that isn’t dependent
on drugs or alcohol or an external source of some substance to make you simulate the feeling of being free is hard work, diligence, discipline, focus, ability for the self to feel uncomfortable, vulnerable, move towards something that they’re
going to gain through their efforting.
And anything that’s given is actually a version of enabling
somebody who’s already got a problem.
And it further anchors them with a chain to the hell that
they’re in and don’t know it.
And when someone’s in hell, what they do is create more hell
for anyone that comes around them.
So they’re like a dog on a chain that has a circumference,
that if you as a being with your energy, whether you’re good,
bad, whatever you want to say, as far as how you feel, you’re
going to get into that field.
And if you’re not aware or strong enough, you’re going to
hell for that moment, for that week for that year that it
takes you to get rid of it.
Now that freedom is the freedom of understanding, that if
you feel good, you won’t find yourself randomly going in
places that will cross paths with those folks that are,
Unfortunately haven’t freed themselves and are also being
continually enabled by other people in society that isn’t
serving the whole of society and us as a people.
So if we think of this on a conscious platform, a Bowl and
there’s a percentage of the Bowl allocated to different aspects
of consciousness, there is a percentage in the Bowl that
is associated with with a guilty consciousness that is kept
there and enabled to that space that fundamentally influences
the whole.
And the only thing we can do is to stop enabling those folks,
including ourselves in those areas, so that we can consciously
support their growth, possibly offering an opportunity if
they open their mind for a split second to consider a different
way and to earn what their true value is that will never
be known unless they can explore their own skill set their
own gift of which we all have, no matter where you are in
humanity and your process of growth so that you can Bloom
like a flower so other people can smell something different
than the hell that you’re certainly providing through your
beingness. And acceptance of the guilt that you have inherited
and or have been taught or and taken on unconsciously.
And so to the topic of guilt.
Let’s work on ourselves first and foremost, by being aware
that it’s there.
Let’s take on the process of communicating with other people
so that we construct reasoning and possibility with options
that end with the result that we want so as not foster guilt
in others.
And through that alone, you will find freedom.
Because as you see that person free, it will be reflected
to you to review your personal guilt that’s been taken on
and create that freedom internally and that will serve humanity
as a whole.
So it’s better to give than receive, therefore taking this
practice and giving it to everyone around you indirectly,
you are doing the same by teaching yourself, by doing.
And that’s how we take what we learn.
We only truly know.
We don’t know by reading a book because it’s not experiential.
We don’t know by hearing it from another person, although
the book and the other person are certainly information.
But the third step, that’s the more profound step that refines
the idea you really gather that actual concept that’s innate
will become innate through internalization of practice
is by practicing it, by teaching it, by being it.
And then you’ve graduated to this is who I am.
And hopefully when and if any other aspects of people come
to challenge you, which will happen as the nature of
embodiment. To test how fortified is this person in t
heir Constitution of what they’re teaching, they have
to be that too.
They can’t just teach it, because otherwise it’s a false
narrative. Then the universe will come and say, Alright,
well, Let’s just check him or her real quick just to make
sure. And every now and then that needs to occur.
Just so you keep yourself true.
And so once you’re out of the space of guilt, you really,
truly can be who you are, which is the ultimate freedom.
And that’s what we’re all working towards.
That’s what we encourage you to create and be.
And thank you for being with us on the topic of guilt.
Any questions?
Feel free to reach out.
We’re happy to do anything we can to support you.
We love you.
We love everyone.
We love the world.
And it’s all about love.
I mean, that’s it, right.
Why the hell are we doing this?
To get out of hell?
Because loves first.
Oh, Amen.
Peace
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