The Blue Jay by Dr. Lisa
On a beautiful sunny morning, I was walking to our favorite spot in the park to begin my Chi Kung practice. Bear, our 9-month-old, and I were enjoying the trees and the sunlight shining through the branches when we happened upon a blue jay on the trail. Now, this blue jay was smack dab in the middle of the trail and as I approached, he did not fly away. Instead, he began hopping and then attempting to fly. I thought to myself he must need help since he was waiting on the trail for me. I followed him for a little while and couldn’t quite figure out what seemed to be his issue.
I called my man and asked him to come to take a look at this bird. When Matthew arrived he immediately said it is a young bird who must have fallen from his nest and has not quite learned how to fly. He followed the bird and the bird allowed him to get close and after a few minutes, he reached down to pick up the bird. At this time the mama bird swept down and tapped Matthew on the head. Four other blue jays were flying around and squawking as if to say leave our baby bird alone. We knew it was best to leave him with his family. Matthew led the bird under the tree where he was safe out of human and dog traffic.
As we walked away from the area we saw the mama bird fly down and feed her little bird. Initially, I thought the bird was in my path because he was injured. Little did I know at that moment he was in my path to remind me as a parent to allow my children to figure out how to fly. As a parent, we are many times to quick to swoop in, rescue, fix or help our child. Just like the mama bird we need to feed our babies, keep an eye on them, and let them figure out how to fly on their own.
One of our more exciting life examples of another not so little bird anymore is our older son. Will is now at Loyola of Chicago after graduating from Jesuit High School in New Orleans. Our family united when Will was eight years old and he is now eighteen. Our oldest Lily is the same having been ten years old she is now twenty and in Colorado. Blending a family is not any easier than seeing your little ones fly away however we did it and we did it successfully. We thankful for these blessings. Our children are growing and learning about life outside the nest and mam bird is here to guide them when they seek assistance.
Although baby birds will make their nests the parent birds are always excited to see their success and happiness. When we do our job well they fly on their own and help others along the way.
Lisa DeFusco Ancira , MD